How To Mind Your Own Business
If asked, "What is that one job in the world do you think has been done by everyone?" It would be - minding someone else's business. Let's admit it, we at least did it once or for some time. We know how unhealthy and unnecessary it is but we just can't help it. But there are some ways to prevent doing this ever again, or STOP IT for good. We owe it to ourselves to be relieve from pointless comparison and judgments that wouldn't affect us at all if we actually stop doing it. That makes sense right?
Stop comparing.
Comparing ourselves to others is probably the first step to minding other people's business. If you always pay attention to what you don't have, or what you're lacking, then you go and look at the people around you to check if they have what you don't have. Then when you see that they do, that's when you start noticing them and ask yourselves, "How did she have that?" or "Why does she do that when I don't do it myself?" If you actually think about it, it doesn't matter at all. Who cares if you don't have it and she does? We're all born unique, so there's no way all of us have the exact same things. Believe it or not, he/she might be having things or qualities that you don't have, but so do you. You have things and qualities that no other people can ever have, and that's where we should focus on. We should focus on what we have and be thankful for it, and develop it. Aside that it is healthier, you're also enhancing yourself into a better version of you.
Quit making a big deal out of anything.
Have you ever had those days were you feel like you have a lot of problems and you don't know how to start solving them one by one? Why not let's start to actually think it through on what are we stressing about? Then, that's when you'll figure out that there are actually things that is not your problem at all. Why? Because you're making a big deal out of things when it doesn't really have anything to do with you. Perfect example would be, other people's opinion regarding politics, religion, or love. Let's take note that not all things are under our control, like the opinions of others. So, if you see that their beliefs or opinions are in contrast to yours, then respect it, leave and stay out of it.What's theirs is theirs. We'll just have to acknowledge the fact that we won't be on the same stand for some area rather than getting mad and stressed about how you guys are not on the same team.
Let's not assume that we're always right.
To assume that we are always right or that we know it all, is what triggers judgments. We start judging others for what they do. We judge because we think that they're not doing right, because we're not doing it ourselves. But reflect on the situation, the one in the wrong is actually the one who judges. We have to understand that nobody is perfect, and that no human knows it all. The healthier solution for this is, we have to start learning from each other. If you see that there's somebody making a mistake, then correct them - but never judge them. And same goes to you, if they correct you, acknowledge your mistake and learn from it. Mutual understanding like this doesn't just resolve conflicts, but can also build stronger friendships.
Be Grateful.
The most important step to minding your own business is to simply be grateful. Learn to appreciate and be thankful for what you have. Not just what you have, but what other people have as well. Learn the art of being happy for the success of others. Life is not a competition, we have to be there for each other instead of pulling each other down. If we live with that kind of outlook in life, our mind will be at ease and be safe from any unnecessary overthinking and negative thoughts.
Comparing ourselves to others is probably the first step to minding other people's business. If you always pay attention to what you don't have, or what you're lacking, then you go and look at the people around you to check if they have what you don't have. Then when you see that they do, that's when you start noticing them and ask yourselves, "How did she have that?" or "Why does she do that when I don't do it myself?" If you actually think about it, it doesn't matter at all. Who cares if you don't have it and she does? We're all born unique, so there's no way all of us have the exact same things. Believe it or not, he/she might be having things or qualities that you don't have, but so do you. You have things and qualities that no other people can ever have, and that's where we should focus on. We should focus on what we have and be thankful for it, and develop it. Aside that it is healthier, you're also enhancing yourself into a better version of you.
Quit making a big deal out of anything.
Have you ever had those days were you feel like you have a lot of problems and you don't know how to start solving them one by one? Why not let's start to actually think it through on what are we stressing about? Then, that's when you'll figure out that there are actually things that is not your problem at all. Why? Because you're making a big deal out of things when it doesn't really have anything to do with you. Perfect example would be, other people's opinion regarding politics, religion, or love. Let's take note that not all things are under our control, like the opinions of others. So, if you see that their beliefs or opinions are in contrast to yours, then respect it, leave and stay out of it.What's theirs is theirs. We'll just have to acknowledge the fact that we won't be on the same stand for some area rather than getting mad and stressed about how you guys are not on the same team.
Let's not assume that we're always right.
To assume that we are always right or that we know it all, is what triggers judgments. We start judging others for what they do. We judge because we think that they're not doing right, because we're not doing it ourselves. But reflect on the situation, the one in the wrong is actually the one who judges. We have to understand that nobody is perfect, and that no human knows it all. The healthier solution for this is, we have to start learning from each other. If you see that there's somebody making a mistake, then correct them - but never judge them. And same goes to you, if they correct you, acknowledge your mistake and learn from it. Mutual understanding like this doesn't just resolve conflicts, but can also build stronger friendships.
Be Grateful.
The most important step to minding your own business is to simply be grateful. Learn to appreciate and be thankful for what you have. Not just what you have, but what other people have as well. Learn the art of being happy for the success of others. Life is not a competition, we have to be there for each other instead of pulling each other down. If we live with that kind of outlook in life, our mind will be at ease and be safe from any unnecessary overthinking and negative thoughts.
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