Pleasing People

When scrolling on our newsfeed on Facebook, the most common thing we’ll see would be shared posts or memes. I find joy in reading funny posts from pages or from my Facebook friends. Samot na nga kining Facebook ay isang walang hangganang scroll 😂 . It’s amazing how some people can be so witty, and how they can literally joke on anything. That’s why some posts are very relatable. Mao ni rason na mag ngiit-ngiit ko mag atubang ug cellphone. Kani lang gyung mga Adults sa balay, pag makit-an kang gangisi gaatubang sa cellphone, gikilig na kuno ka or nag biga-biga na. Hala haaaa wala na ba kaming karapatang sumaya na hindi kailangang kiligin? CHAROOOT 😂😂

Aside from that, may mga shared posts din naaaa you know, maoy-maoy, or hugot2, or mga patama. Isa din to sa mga mudagsa gyud sa akong Newsfeed. Most people na mushare ani is kanang mga nakarelate, naigo, or nay gipaigo. Or siguro naa poy mushare na wala ka relate, walay gipaigo, pero trip nya lang ganun hahahahanep. Pero mostly, mga naigo ug nay gipaigo gyud na. Eh kasi namaaaan, apil ko ani na partida 😂. Ako honestly, di ko hilig ug shared posts sauna, alangan di kayu ko active pod ug Facebook sauna ihh, murag 1 year ko na walay own Facebook account sauna. Bag-o man gud ni akong facebook account ron hmfff.

So sometimes I have this thing, na when I am going thru something and I badly want to say something to a certain person, instead of telling that person about it, I just go on Facebook and share some posts relating to what I would have wanted to say and just hope na mabasa niya ang post and makagets siya. Mhmmmm aminiiiiin, ngana sad mo HAHAHAHA. I am fully aware that it’s not right, awhh it’s not wrong but it’s not right either. Pero murag unhealthy siya, kay if I wanted this matter to be fixed, I should approach that person and talk to him/her about it. Mamoot ko kay nay times sad na naa koy quote na i-myday or istory, then naa koy hulaton na mu view kay para iyaha gyud to na quote man, tas kapag na seen na niya, pwede na nako deleton, kay siya raman akong target na viewer HAHAHAHAHHAHA bawo nimo sindimeha ka ambot 😂😂.

And then at the end of the day, I get frustrated or disappointed kay, oo na share na nakos Facebook or myday akong mga gusto iingon or ipaigo, pero na fixed ba ang matter? Wala. Wala kasi wala din namang proper communication ang naganap.  So this is one of my manners na I am still working on with myself. I hate to admit nga murag nakasanayan na bitaw nako na ikeep sa akong self akong mga gusto ipang ingon. I’m not sure pero “People Pleasing” na ba ang tawag ani?  Kanang bisag di unta ka sang-ayon sa iyang gihimo or giingon, but tungod kay di ka gusto malaen or madisappoint siya, then you’ll end up saying yes, bisag sa imong self kay No na unta. Then after ana kay sa Facebook na dayun ipatama, hoping na mabasa niya and makarealize sya. Diba parang mas complicated, or mas taas ang process? Diba mas dali ra unta if I would be direct sa akong stand ug sa akong point, and then we’ll properly talk about it until nay solution. 

Ergo, if I will be asked on what thing about myself that I would like to change or improve, it would be this. I want to have that firmness whenever I have my stand.  I want to stop compromising myself just so I could get the approval of another person. Nakasaad sa bible, Galatians 1:10, “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ”. Mahirap maging isang servant of God when at the same time we are a people-pleaser. 

 So karon under construction pa ko, ako pang gihasa ni nga area sa akong self. But I remember how I was way worst gyud ani before, I remember how namura kog itoy-itoy everywhere sauna, always saying yes to people bisag di unta nako gusto. Pero at least now, di nagyud kaayu, kay nakamatngon napod ko nohhhh. HAGOOOO SYAAAA. I think the last time I compromised myself just to please someone was last month (April) hihihihi PRAMIS PEKSMAN last nato as in huehue 😅. I am an avid fan of Anna Akana, a youtuber, and she’s an advocate of Mental Health and Suicide Prevention. I love how she always makes it a point on most of her videos about being true to yourself and standing up for what you believe, without offending others. Comedian, writer, and filmmaker sad ni siya, such a very remarkable woman. Sahay kay siya akong unahon sad ug search sa Youtube kay every week mana siya mag upload.

Life is a never-ending learning process. So nagsugod ko ginagmay, tinigil ko na yung pagpadungog-dungog sa facebook hahahaha. If I wanted to tell that person something, ako siya sendan ug quote or picture bitaw ngana. Then diha na dayun magsugod mi ug storya. But woys this doesn’t happen a lot noh lol makasinabot ra nako almost everybody. 

But I really appreciate some of my friends mu pm intawn mamutana “Hoy ok raka cindy?” or “Ga amards lagi ka? Why?” or “Nganu ka? Talk.” Thank youuuu to these people who put value on my feelings, thank you din kay mga good listeners kaayu. I had a run-through with my Facebook account this morning, mindful na man ko sa akong mga shared post, kay lagi galikay nagyud ko anang padungog2, focus nako karon anang mga funny posts, or inspirational posts about God and faith. 

Sa mga tig share ug memes diha, padayun lang mo, nakakapagpasaya kayu ng facebook friend nyo chaaaar, sa mga tig share ug maoy, sige imaoy mo lang yan until you feel better (lami pod ng magrelease ug kamaoy biya, makarelieve), and sa may mga gustong patamaan diha I hope you find the courage soon to tell that person what you really feel, but you decide. After all, it’s your business.

Sige that’s all for now, magtiwas sa kog tan-aw aning gisuggest nila na movie “Weathering With You”, a must-watch daw eh soooo imma check it out na. Ciao!