Things Every Guy Should Know
Here are 5 things I believe every guy should know (or not if you won't read hahaha! 😂)
1. It's okay to be vulnerable.
Ever since, society has always pictured men to be strong, brave, very masculine and always emotionally collected. Boys are taught as young as they can remember of perceptions like "Don't ever cry. Real strong men don't cry." or perhaps "Don't ever show your emotions, that's for the weak". Come on now. Crying or showing emotions IS NEVER a sign of weakness, and it doesn't make a guy less of a man. Dili raman mga babae ang masakitan. Pati lalaki din, masakitan sad na sila, binuangan sad na sila, manghilak sad na sila ug pangbiyaan, and that's okay. We're all humans and it's our emotions that makes us human.Masaksihan sad nato ni sa mga tagay sessions. These sessions sometimes happen pag nay isa sa atong tropa na ga maoy ganun. Lami kaayo ipanganchaw diba ug "Way hilakay brad hap! Pag sure diha!", ako muapil kog katawa man basta naa nay manganchaw ug sugod hahaha but deep inside, it's not a big deal for me if he cries while he's drunk. Murag mao nay time na finally his concrete walls are down, and he can cry and mourn sa kung unsa man galeng na iyang gikahilakan. Bahala nag muingon silag uwaw nig ka ugma oi, importante na release nimo imong mga kasakit. I swear it feels so good pag nahilak ra gyud nimo ug duro ng imong gipangbati diha, and really, it doesn't make you weak at all.
2. Be expressive.
The other week, a guy friend of mine asked me, "Gimingaw ko niya. Ok rag ingnun nako siya? Mauwaw man ko uy basin open ra kaayu ba." Hold it cowboy! If that's what you're feeling, then express it. As I have mentioned on my previous article about Walang label, I adore expressive people. Basta nindot lang gyud para nako. Gimingaw ka niya? Ingna siya. Gikilig kas iyang giingon or gihimo nimo? Go tell her. Dili raman mga babae ang necessarily nga mao ray open sa ilang feelings just because "Girls are emotional and has so many feelings." Life is short, if there’s anything you wanna do, do it. If there’s something you wanna say, say it. If you feel something, express it before it’s too late. Alam nyo tigilan nyo nayang stereotyping na yan, makalabad sa ulo hahahaha grr 😂
3. Stay close with your parents, specially your mom.
I've met guys who claimed that they don't want to be seen with their parents just because "mura silag batang way buot". Nikatawa rako back then katong gichikahan ko niyag ngana sauna pina "Di ko ganahan pauban nila mama oi, mura kog bata." Ngiii pag sure. Gajama-jama nalaman gyud to siya oi hahahah sarrey brad. Kanindot nuon ana. You know how there are a lot of people in the world who want that kind of blessing - to have both their parents alive with them and have them, witness, as they succeed in life. Spending a lot of time going out with your parents doesn't make you murag bata, it turns you into a family-oriented person, and that is beautiful. Especially to guys out there na mga Mama's boy. Dang, these guys know the standards to treating a woman right.😍
4. Your bodies are perfect.
Akala ng mundo, it's only girls who have body issues or those body-shaming problems. So do guys, but the thing is hindi masyadong halata kasi nga hindi sila expressive. I had classmates in High school who were like "Wangkig ra kayko oi, kinsa ba pod uroy maibog nako", and the other was "Chubbyhon ko Cin oi, wa tay ikabuga." The same as what people say to women when they are body-shamed, "You are beautiful regardless of what your body shape is." Ayaw kabalaka ug wa kay abs kay dili tanang bae nahangol ana (apil ko hahaha). Ayaw kabalaka ug wangkig ka kay that doesn't make you weak, unsaon mang paspas man jud kag metabolism diba 😉. And ayaw ikaguol ng tambok ka, kay dili man muscles ang lantawon kung unsa ka maayo ng taw. You know where we should pay our attention more? Our personality development, mental health, spiritual health, and emotional health.
5. Be a Godly man.
This makes everything else align. Nothing is more beautiful than a man who has a close relationship with God. Not just for guys but actually for everyone. We become beautiful inside and out, and we glow. If you're a godly person, you do everything with prayer, and you decide everything with prayer, hindi yung tipong "Bahala na", or "Kapalaran nagud bahala ana". When you're a Godly person, di ka basta-basta mu give up, kay mutoo ka na God is redirecting you by His will, and you'll always be a humble man.
So ano guys, crystal clear? 😃
1. It's okay to be vulnerable.
Ever since, society has always pictured men to be strong, brave, very masculine and always emotionally collected. Boys are taught as young as they can remember of perceptions like "Don't ever cry. Real strong men don't cry." or perhaps "Don't ever show your emotions, that's for the weak". Come on now. Crying or showing emotions IS NEVER a sign of weakness, and it doesn't make a guy less of a man. Dili raman mga babae ang masakitan. Pati lalaki din, masakitan sad na sila, binuangan sad na sila, manghilak sad na sila ug pangbiyaan, and that's okay. We're all humans and it's our emotions that makes us human.Masaksihan sad nato ni sa mga tagay sessions. These sessions sometimes happen pag nay isa sa atong tropa na ga maoy ganun. Lami kaayo ipanganchaw diba ug "Way hilakay brad hap! Pag sure diha!", ako muapil kog katawa man basta naa nay manganchaw ug sugod hahaha but deep inside, it's not a big deal for me if he cries while he's drunk. Murag mao nay time na finally his concrete walls are down, and he can cry and mourn sa kung unsa man galeng na iyang gikahilakan. Bahala nag muingon silag uwaw nig ka ugma oi, importante na release nimo imong mga kasakit. I swear it feels so good pag nahilak ra gyud nimo ug duro ng imong gipangbati diha, and really, it doesn't make you weak at all.
2. Be expressive.
The other week, a guy friend of mine asked me, "Gimingaw ko niya. Ok rag ingnun nako siya? Mauwaw man ko uy basin open ra kaayu ba." Hold it cowboy! If that's what you're feeling, then express it. As I have mentioned on my previous article about Walang label, I adore expressive people. Basta nindot lang gyud para nako. Gimingaw ka niya? Ingna siya. Gikilig kas iyang giingon or gihimo nimo? Go tell her. Dili raman mga babae ang necessarily nga mao ray open sa ilang feelings just because "Girls are emotional and has so many feelings." Life is short, if there’s anything you wanna do, do it. If there’s something you wanna say, say it. If you feel something, express it before it’s too late. Alam nyo tigilan nyo nayang stereotyping na yan, makalabad sa ulo hahahaha grr 😂
3. Stay close with your parents, specially your mom.
I've met guys who claimed that they don't want to be seen with their parents just because "mura silag batang way buot". Nikatawa rako back then katong gichikahan ko niyag ngana sauna pina "Di ko ganahan pauban nila mama oi, mura kog bata." Ngiii pag sure. Gajama-jama nalaman gyud to siya oi hahahah sarrey brad. Kanindot nuon ana. You know how there are a lot of people in the world who want that kind of blessing - to have both their parents alive with them and have them, witness, as they succeed in life. Spending a lot of time going out with your parents doesn't make you murag bata, it turns you into a family-oriented person, and that is beautiful. Especially to guys out there na mga Mama's boy. Dang, these guys know the standards to treating a woman right.😍
4. Your bodies are perfect.
Akala ng mundo, it's only girls who have body issues or those body-shaming problems. So do guys, but the thing is hindi masyadong halata kasi nga hindi sila expressive. I had classmates in High school who were like "Wangkig ra kayko oi, kinsa ba pod uroy maibog nako", and the other was "Chubbyhon ko Cin oi, wa tay ikabuga." The same as what people say to women when they are body-shamed, "You are beautiful regardless of what your body shape is." Ayaw kabalaka ug wa kay abs kay dili tanang bae nahangol ana (apil ko hahaha). Ayaw kabalaka ug wangkig ka kay that doesn't make you weak, unsaon mang paspas man jud kag metabolism diba 😉. And ayaw ikaguol ng tambok ka, kay dili man muscles ang lantawon kung unsa ka maayo ng taw. You know where we should pay our attention more? Our personality development, mental health, spiritual health, and emotional health.
5. Be a Godly man.
This makes everything else align. Nothing is more beautiful than a man who has a close relationship with God. Not just for guys but actually for everyone. We become beautiful inside and out, and we glow. If you're a godly person, you do everything with prayer, and you decide everything with prayer, hindi yung tipong "Bahala na", or "Kapalaran nagud bahala ana". When you're a Godly person, di ka basta-basta mu give up, kay mutoo ka na God is redirecting you by His will, and you'll always be a humble man.
So ano guys, crystal clear? 😃
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